When someone tells you they’re experiencing sexual harassment, they’re showing trust and vulnerability. Your reaction can make a huge difference in whether they feel supported, or even more isolated.
Here’s how to help:
Listen with empathy.
Let them speak at their own pace. Don’t interrupt, rush, or question their version of events. Simply listening can be the most powerful thing you do.
Believe them.
It takes courage to speak up. Say things like “I believe you”, “Thank you for trusting me”, and “This isn’t your fault”. Avoid minimising with phrases like “I’m sure they didn’t mean it” or “It’s probably nothing”.
Ask what they need.
Do they want help contacting a union rep? Are they ready to report, or do they just need support for now? Respect their choices, don’t pressure them.
Encourage keeping records.
Harassment cases are easier to pursue when dates, times, places, and examples are written down. Suggest they keep a diary and save messages if it’s safe to do so.
Offer practical help.
Could you accompany them to speak to a rep or HR? Could you help draft notes? Let them know you’re willing to stand with them.
Look after yourself too.
Supporting someone can be emotionally challenging. It’s OK to seek advice from your union rep or use resources yourself.
No one should have to face harassment alone. Being a supportive colleague can help someone move from fear to action.
