It starts with a joke. A comment about someone’s appearance. A nudge, a wink, a crude remark, all framed as banter. But when so-called “workplace banter” crosses the line into disrespect and humiliation, it’s no longer harmless, it’s harassment.
Why does this matter?
Sexual harassment often hides behind the defence of humour. “Can’t you take a joke?” “It was only banter.” But these excuses ignore the impact on the person targeted:
- It can leave them feeling uncomfortable, degraded or isolated.
- It can affect their confidence, mental health and ability to do their job.
- It reinforces unequal power dynamics, making some feel small so others can feel big.
When does banter become harassment?
It becomes harassment when:
- The conduct is unwanted.
- It creates a hostile or offensive environment.
- It violates someone’s dignity.
Imagine a colleague repeatedly making comments about another’s body or clothes, even after they’ve been asked to stop. Or making sexual jokes in meetings that leave others embarrassed or silent. The target may laugh along because they feel pressured, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay.
Why do people join in?
Power dynamics play a role. People fear being labelled as “boring” or “no fun” if they challenge the behaviour. Often, junior staff feel unable to speak up when seniors are involved.
What can we do?
- Call out inappropriate “banter” when we see it.
- Support colleagues who feel uncomfortable.
- Encourage a culture where respect matters more than cheap laughs.
Because true banter makes everyone feel included — not targeted.
